Sunday, March 13, 2016

Part 2 – Roles of Father, Mother and Children in God’s Awesome Plan for Our Families

We looked at:

Day 1 – God’s Plan for Our Homes and Families and How that Plan is Accomplished

Today we will look at:

Day 2 – Roles of Father, Mother, and Children in that Plan

Don’t miss next post when we will look at the reason that God’s plan for families isn’t being realized and lived out:

Day 3 – The Destruction of Our Family and the Abomination that Works Desolation in our Homes and Families

and then what to do about it all:

Day 4 – How to Break Free from the Enemy’s Grips to Get back to God’s Plan for our Homes and Families


Take the time to read through the BOLD OUTLINE and WORDS at least so you know what is destroying our families from the inside out.  This is a culmination of a 10+ year Bible study on this and I know you will love it!

Part 2 – Roles of Father, Mother and
Children in God’s Awesome Plan for Our Families

I.          Fathers

            A.         Are to train, correct and discipline (reproves, warns, instructs) their children.          

“And have you [completely] forgotten the divine word of appeal and encouragement in which you are reasoned with and addressed as sons? My son, do not think lightly or scorn to submit to the correction and discipline of the Lord, nor lose courage and give up and faint when you are reproved or corrected by Him; For the Lord corrects and disciplines everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes. You must submit to and endure [correction] for discipline; God is dealing with you as with sons. For what son is there whom his father does not [thus] train and correct and discipline? Now if you are exempt from correction and left without discipline in which all [of God’s children] share, then you are illegitimate offspring and not true sons [at all].  Moreover, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we yielded [to them] and respected [them for training us]. Shall we not much more cheerfully submit to the Father of spirits and so [truly] live? For [our earthly fathers] disciplined us for only a short period of time and chastised us as seemed proper and good to them; but He disciplines us for our certain good, that we may become sharers in His own holiness. For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it [a harvest of fruit which consists in righteousness—in conformity to God’s will in purpose, thought, and action, resulting in right living and right standing with God].  (Hebrews 12:5–11 AMP)

“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline (reproof warning correction instructs) him”. (Proverbs 13:24 NIV)

“Whoever refuses to spank his son hates him, but whoever loves his son disciplines (reproof warning correction instructs) him from early on”. (Proverbs 13:24 GW)

1Th. 2:11 For you know how, as a father [dealing with] his children, we used to exhort each of you personally, stimulating and encouraging and charging you.

            B.         Has compassion (loves; has mercy) for his children

Psa. 103:13   As a father has compassion for his children, so the LORD has compassion for those who fear him.

Col. 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]

            C.         Joys in his children; raises wise children

Prov. 23:24 The father of the [uncompromisingly] righteous (the upright, in right standing with God) shall greatly rejoice, and he who becomes the father of a wise child shall have joy in him.

            D.         Manages the household well, and knows how to keep his children under control with dignity that commands respect

1Tim. 3:12 Let deacons be the husbands of but one wife, and let them manage [their] children and their own households well.

1Tim. 3:4 He must rule his own household well, keeping his children under control, with true dignity, commanding their respect in every way and keeping them respectful.  For if a man does not know how to rule his own household, how is he to take care of the church of God?

            E.         Prioritizes his family and knows the irreplaceable role they play in their everyday lives.

9 Important Ways Dads Impact The Lives Of Their Children
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We partnered with Johnson & Johnson to share findings from the report on global fatherhood, as well as from several other studies that examine the powerful and enduring influence fathers can have on their children.
1.  Their kids play well with others
2.  Their partners and babies are healthier
3.  Their children are more prepared for school…
4.  And go on to be more successful academically
5. Their children start speaking earlier and are more verbally expressive
6.  Their children grow up less prone to depression
7. Their sons are less likely to be in trouble
8. Their daughters are more ambitious in their careers
9. …and have a more positive self-image
Fathers play an important -- and sometimes overlooked -- role in the development of their children. From their role in prenatal care, to how they play, communicate and act as role-models for their kids, loving, engaged dads have been shown to have a tremendous impact on how a child grows up. They are truly irreplaceable. Johnson & Johnson celebrates dads and all parents for the incredible role they play in in making the world a better, more caring place for their children.
(http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/07/29/why-dads-matter-state-of-fatherhood-report_n_7785938.html)

II.         Mothers

            A.        Train Their Children

Prov. 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left undisciplined (without reproof warning correction instruction) brings his mother to shame.

            B.         Comfort Their Children

Is. 66:13 As one whom his mother comforts, so will I comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.

Correction and discipline (reproof warning correction instruction ) are good for children. If they have their own way, they will make their mothers ashamed of them”. (Proverbs 29:15 GNB)

            C.         Comes Alongside Their Children

“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame”. (Proverbs 29:15 KJV)

III.       Parents

            A.        Discipline and Train Their Children without Over-Indulging Them

Prov. 13:24 (MSG)               A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining (reproving warning correcting instructing) them.

Prov. 19:18 (MSG)               Discipline (reprove warn correct and instruct) your children while you still have the chance; indulging them destroys them.

“All children are foolish, but firm correction will make them change”. (Proverbs 22:15 CEV)

Discipline (reprove warn correct and instruct) your children while they are young enough to learn. If you don't, you are helping them destroy themselves”. (Proverbs 19:18 GNB)

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying”. (Proverbs 19:18 KJV)

Correct your children before it's too late; if you don't punish them, you are destroying them”. (Proverbs 19:18 CEV)

IV.        Children

            A.         Must be trained to honor and regard and respect their parents

Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.”
(Exodus 20:12 AMP)

            B.         Must be trained to obey their parents

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. “Honor your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, “so you will live well and have a long life.
 (Ephesians 6:1–3 MESSAGE)

CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother—this is the first commandment with a promise—That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.
(Ephesians 6:1–3 AMP)


Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Part 1 – God’s Plan for Our Homes and Families and How that Plan is Accomplished

I.          God’s Plan for Our Homes and Our Children

            A.         That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the LORD sware unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth. (Deut 11.21)

                        [Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your soul, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. And ye shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates: That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the LORD sware unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth. Deut 11.18-21]

                        “Know this well, then. Take it to heart right now: GOD is in Heaven above; GOD is on Earth below. He’s the only God there is. Obediently live by his rules and commands which I’m giving you today so that you’ll live well and your children after you—oh, you’ll live a long time in the land that GOD, your God, is giving you.”  (Deuteronomy 4:39–40 MESSAGE)

            B.         That your family be for signs and wonders!

                        Is. 8:18 Behold, I and the children whom the Lord has given me are signs and wonders [that are to take place] in Israel from the Lord of hosts, Who dwells on Mount Zion.

            C.         He desires you to have godly descendants.  46 times it is written “according to their families”; 44 times it is written “after their families”

                        “Didn’t ˻God˼ make you one? Your flesh and spirit belong to him. And what does the same ˻God˼ look for but godly descendants? So be careful not to be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
“I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. “I hate the person who covers himself with violence,” says the LORD of Armies. “Be careful not to be unfaithful.”” (Malachi 2:15–16 GWORD)

            D.         He wants to fill your houses with wisdom, understanding and knowledge of Him by turning the hearts of the fathers to their children.

                        Luke 1:17 And he will [himself] go before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn back the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient and incredulous and unpersuadable to the wisdom of the upright [which is the knowledge and holy love of the will of God]—in order to make ready for the Lord a people [perfectly] prepared [in spirit, adjusted and disposed and placed in the right moral state].

                        Proverbs 24.3-4:  By wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; And by knowledge the rooms are filled, With all precious and pleasant riches.

II.         How God’s Plan for Our Homes and Our Children is Accomplished

            A.         By you loving Him with all your heart, soul and might.  That His words be in our heart, And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.

            B.         That when the Lord brings you into the land of promise and you have houses full of all good things He provides,  Then beware lest thou forget the LORD, which brought thee forth out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage.  Thou shalt fear the LORD thy God, and serve him, and shalt swear by his name.  Ye shall not go after other gods, of the gods of the people which are round about you;  (For the LORD thy God is a jealous God among you) lest the anger of the LORD thy God be kindled against thee, and destroy thee from off the face of the earth.

                        [And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. And it shall be, when the LORD thy God shall have brought thee into the land which he sware unto thy fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give thee great and goodly cities, which thou buildedst not, And houses full of all good things, which thou filledst not, and wells digged, which thou diggedst not, vineyards and olive trees, which thou plantedst not; when thou shalt have eaten and be full; Then beware lest thou forget the LORD, which brought thee forth out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage.  Thou shalt fear the LORD thy God, and serve him, and shalt swear by his name.  Ye shall not go after other gods, of the gods of the people which are round about you;  (For the LORD thy God is a jealous God among you) lest the anger of the LORD thy God be kindled against thee, and destroy thee from off the face of the earth.  (Deuteronomy 6:5–15 KJV)]

            C.         That you teach and command your children to keep the ways of the Lord so He can bring you what He promised you.  His plan isn’t just to give YOU a great life but it is specifically for YOUR CHILDREN!!!

                        [For I have known (chosen, acknowledged) him [as My own], so that he may teach and command his children and the sons of his house after him to keep the way of the Lord and to do what is just and righteous, so that the Lord may bring Abraham what He has promised him. (Genesis 18:19 AMP)]

                        “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. As arrows are in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. Happy, blessed, and fortunate is the man whose quiver is filled with them! They will not be put to shame when they speak with their adversaries [in gatherings] at the [city’s] gate.”  (Psalms 127:3–5 AMP)

                        “A good man leaves an inheritance [of moral stability and goodness] to his children’s children, and the wealth of the sinner [finds its way eventually] into the hands of the righteous, for whom it was laid up.”
(Proverbs 13:22 AMP)

                        “…or as the days of a tree, so shall be the days of My people, and My chosen and elect shall long make use of and enjoy the work of their hands. They shall not labor in vain or bring forth [children] for sudden terror or calamity; for they shall be the descendants of the blessed of the Lord, and their offspring with them. And it shall be that before they call I will answer; and while they are yet speaking I will hear.”(Isaiah 65:22–24 AMP)

                        “To you it was shown, that you might realize and have personal knowledge that the Lord is God; there is no other besides Him. Out of heaven He made you hear His voice, that He might correct, discipline, and admonish you; and on earth He made you see His great fire, and you heard His words out of the midst of the fire. And because He loved your fathers, He chose their descendants after them, and brought you out from Egypt with His own Presence, by His mighty power, Driving out nations from before you, greater and mightier than yourselves, to bring you in, to give you their land for an inheritance, as it is this day; Know, recognize, and understand therefore this day and turn your [mind and] heart to it that the Lord is God in the heavens above and upon the earth beneath; there is no other. Therefore you shall keep His statutes and His commandments, which I command you this day, that it may go well with you and your children after you and that you may prolong your days in the land which the Lord your God gives you forever.”
(Deuteronomy 4:35–40 AMP)

                        “You will be able to tell your children and grandchildren exactly how I treated the Egyptians and what miraculous signs I did among them. This is how you will all know that I am the LORD.””  (Exodus 10:2 GWORD)

            D.         Serving the Lord in your house, and training your children to do the same. 

                        And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
(Joshua 24:15 AMP)

                        [Prov. 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.

                        Eph. 6:4 Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord.

                        2Tim. 1:5 I am calling up memories of your sincere and unqualified faith (the leaning of your entire personality on God in Christ in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom, and goodness), [a faith] that first lived permanently in [the heart of] your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am [fully] persuaded, [dwells] in you also.

            E.         By telling the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord and His might and the works He performed, SO THAT the generation to come might know them, that the children still to be born might arise and recount them to their children, That they might set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but might keep His commandments. And might not be as their fathers—a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation that set not their hearts aright nor prepared their hearts to know God, and whose spirits were not steadfast and faithful to God.

                        [GIVE EAR, O my people, to my teaching; incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable (in instruction by numerous examples); I will utter dark sayings of old [that hide important truth]—Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, but we will tell to the generation to come the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, and His might, and the wonderful works that He has performed. For He established a testimony (an express precept) in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, commanding our fathers that they should make [the great facts of God’s dealings with Israel] known to their children, That the generation to come might know them, that the children still to be born might arise and recount them to their children, That they might set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but might keep His commandments. And might not be as their fathers—a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation that set not their hearts aright nor prepared their hearts to know God, and whose spirits were not steadfast and faithful to God. (Psalms 78:0–8 AMP)]

            F.         Train train train…

                        Make sure you tell your children, and your children tell their children, And their children their children. Don’t let this message die out.” (Joel 1:3 MESSAGE)

                        “My son, hear the instruction of your father; reject not nor forsake the teaching of your mother. For they are a [victor’s] chaplet (garland) of grace upon your head and chains and pendants [of gold worn by kings] for your neck.”
(Proverbs 1:8–9 AMP)

                        “HEAR, MY sons, the instruction of a father, and pay attention in order to gain and to know intelligent discernment, comprehension, and interpretation [of spiritual matters].”  (Proverbs 4:1 AMP)

                        “My son, keep your father’s [God-given] commandment and forsake not the law of [God] your mother [taught you]. Bind them continually upon your heart and tie them about your neck. When you go, they [the words of your parents’ God] shall lead you; when you sleep, they shall keep you; and when you waken, they shall talk with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the whole teaching [of the law] is light, and reproofs of discipline are the way of life,…”  (Proverbs 6:20–23 AMP)

                        Is. 38:19 The living, the living—they shall thank and praise You, as I do this day; the father shall make known to the children Your faithfulness and Your truth.

                        “And what large and important nation has statutes and ordinances so upright and just as all this law which I set before you today? Only take heed, and guard your life diligently, lest you forget the things which your eyes have seen and lest they depart from your [mind and] heart all the days of your life. Teach them to your children and your children’s children—
(Deuteronomy 4:8–9 AMP)